on speaking to friends

in regards to friends -- it's interesting that nablopomo is friendship themed this month. i've been thinking a lot about friends and friendship the last few months and am quite excited about blogging about this subject. maybe i can talk myself thru the revolving friendships in my life. or at least accept the friends that i do have, as well as the ones i have lost in my life.

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when is the best or worst time to speak to a friend about something important? and how do you approach that conversation?

i have made various attempts with a good friend of mine. she's a part of my life, someone who knows my secrets, who has been there for me, and been supportive! but she has a fairly recent health issue and despite my repeated attempts to talk to her, she either fobs me off or stares at me all teary eyed!

after surviving a major life or death experience a few years ago, i don't understand why she wouldn't act on this one quickly. have it fixed and done and move on. to my eyes, she is burying her head in the sand and ignoring it. but of course i can't MAKE her do anything. just as she cannot make me do anything. it just doesn't make sense to me. i have talked to other friends about this, friends of hers, friends of mine who know her, mutual friends and everyone sort of shrugs their shoulders. BUT what to DO?

i guess if it were drugs or drink, we'd all feel justified about getting involved. making an intervention. but this is an optional op, so i guess it's less important? how far do i go with reminding her? why isn't her doctor as concerned as i am? or is he concerned and she's just blanking him out??

i know i am over-analyzing this whole thing. it just bothers me. and everytime i see her i am reminded of how much i want to say more and how i need to just keep quiet about it.

for now!?!


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